Keeping your own identity is important.
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Many women have thought at least once in their life how to keep their independence at the beginning of the relationship and not become “too obsessive” for the partner.
In an article for Your Tango, Elizabeth Stone, a dating and personal development coach, revealed that she had previously gone through breakups due to such accusations several times until she realized exactly what actions create the impression of “stickiness.” She outlined seven key points:
1. Let your partner take the initiative
Stone advises giving the other person the opportunity to step forward as well, so that balance is maintained in the relationship.
2. Don’t give up on your own interests
People often make their partner the “center of their world”, leaving aside their hobbies, work and personal goals. It’s important to develop your own life and enjoy it regardless of the relationship.
3. Remember your friends and family
Losing social ties to new love leads to isolation, and this is dangerous for both the individual and the relationship. The author recommends setting aside time for your loved ones and not preventing your partner from socializing with his friends.
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4. Don’t rush into exclusivity
Stone notes that getting to know several people in the early stages helps avoid becoming dependent on one person. This reduces the risk of focusing only on one partner and unconsciously starting to “suffocate” him with attention.
5. Give space when you need it
If a partner suddenly becomes less active, it is not necessarily a signal of a breakup. Panic and excessive suspicion can only make the situation worse. Stone recommends that at times like this, you simply give it more time and don’t pressure yourself.
6. Don’t control what he does without you
Wanting to know where and with whom your loved one spends time can destroy trust. Excessive emphasis on this aspect creates a feeling of mistrust and insecurity, which only drives them away.
7. Don’t drag the past into a new relationship
Comparisons with former partners or constant references to past histories erode trust and cause tension. Stone encourages leaving the past where it belongs and building a new union without the “shadows of the past”.
Earlier, American psychologist Mark Travers reported on a study that reveals your partner’s habit of falling asleep next to you in an unexpected way.
